Spending on my wife, children, family....

1. Abu Saeed Khudri (radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasullullah (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that whosoever spends anything on his family members for reward, will enjoy the divine credit of charity. (Bukhari, Muslim)

2. It is described by Abu Huraira (radhiyallahu anhu) that Rasullullah (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that, to spend on one's wife, has great merit than giving charity to male and female slaves and beggars. (Muslim)

3. Abdullah bin Masood (radhiyallahu anhu) reported that the greatest perference is to spend on one's wife and children which is necessary and then it should be spent on close relatives. (Tibrani)

It is narrated in the extract of Arbez bin Saarya (radhiyallahu anhu) that even to give water to one's wife is charity.

4. Abu Huraira(radhiyallahu anhu) reported that someone asked Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) that he had one gold coin with him, where should he spend it? Rasullullah (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that he should spend it on himself. The man said that he had one more and Rasullullah (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that he should spend it on his wife. The man again said that he had yet another and Rasullullah (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said ,that he should spend on his servants. The man said that he had a fourth and Rasullullah (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that he should spend it, on whatever he preferred. (Ibn Habban)

5. Sa'ad bin Waqqas (radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasullullah (sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that whosoever spends his money to gain Allah's pleasure and goodwill, gets the credit of charity so much that even a morsel which he puts in the mouth of his wife, has the credit of charity. ( Bukhari, Muslim)